My mom continues to be married to the person who molested me

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My mother is still married to the man who molested me

DEAR ABBY: My mom continues to be married to the person who molested my siblings and me. How do I forgive her and transfer previous it? We had an in depth mother-daughter relationship till two years in the past, after I requested her why she was nonetheless married to the person her youngsters instructed her repeatedly had molested them. She didn’t reply. She selected him, walked out and we haven’t spoken since. It’s arduous for me to cope with. I don’t perceive, and I don’t know methods to get previous it. Not having your mom as a result of she passes away is difficult, however the feeling of not having her whereas she’s alive is an entire totally different form of ache. — FULL OF PAIN IN TEXAS

DEAR FULL OF PAIN: In my view, not all sins are forgivable. Chief amongst them is popping a blind eye to youngsters who’re being sexually abused. Your mom made her alternative years in the past, and I can solely think about how hurtful it has been for you. A company referred to as R.A.I.N.N. (Rape, Abuse and Incest Nationwide Community) could also be useful as a result of it might join you with skilled therapists. (The web site is

The person to whom your mom has given her allegiance is a hazard to the neighborhood. If he would abuse you and your siblings, he would haven’t any compunction about doing it to different youngsters given the chance. You (and your siblings) ought to notify the police about what occurred to you as a result of it might occur again and again.

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DEAR ABBY: My fiancé and I went to his co-worker “Tina’s” home on a Friday night time to socialize and play trivia video games. We had been at her place earlier than, for a Christmas occasion. Tina wore a brief skirt, and when she sat down you may see all the way in which as much as her black lace panties. Throughout our “heads-up” recreation she sat proper throughout from my fiance. Whereas folks had been laughing and having enjoyable ingesting and taking part in video games, all I might discover had been her panties and Tina’s loud laughs. She was ingesting, and my fiance requested her, “Child, are you feeling OK?” He stated it loudly. Everybody heard it, and I felt myself getting actually offended and pink within the face. Why was he calling her Child? We name one another that!

I don’t wish to return to Tina’s home. My fiance says I overreacted. He doesn’t inform me about his goings-on at work or about buddy hangouts. We normally exit collectively alone. After I suppose again on that night time, I nonetheless really feel upset about it. Are my emotions legitimate? Do you suppose we’d like {couples} remedy earlier than we get married? — UNEASY IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR UNEASY: Permit me to save lots of you some cash. Relatively than inform your fiance you suppose you want {couples} counseling as a result of his co-worker drinks an excessive amount of, say as a substitute you weren’t impressed by the efficiency Tina placed on that night, and you favor the 2 of you skip recreation nights at her place and socialize with folks with whom you will have extra in widespread. 

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Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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